At this present time, we may seem hopeless or in despair with the progress of our little RADishes. It is even too difficult to imagine, how it could be better between our children and us?
Our faith tells us it will possibly be better as long as we do not give up on them. We know that and we continually practice that. But, in moments of our despair, we are infested with negative thoughts about their future.
What jobs can they hold? They struggle with lies and integrity issues.
What kind of parents will they be? They do not have a sense of responsibility and conscience.
What future awaits them? Seemingly dim.
This is all how far our imagination can stretch based on the present circumstances in our lives. We all know their progress is so slow and unpredictable with many peaks and valleys. If we will based our analysis on these patterns, we know that their future may not be bright until a “miracle” occurs.
Then, for now, aim for that miracle.
Do not limit what God can do for your children. Not because our minds cannot stretch that far to the “unknown”, we forget that God operates in boundless time and space. God can move mountains in a second. But, our brains can only comprehend this just as a “saying”.
Remember that Jesus was born in poverty. He had nothing but the loving arms of Mary and Joseph. He did not have the fanfare due for Kings even if He deserved one. He came from humble beginnings. He was tiny and not majestic.
And so with our RAD kids. They seem very ” little” now, without any encouraging attributes.
They are the brunt of our frustrations because of our inability to comprehend God’s plan for them because we keep molding them according to what we think is right.
They are the sick in the heart and we are clueless how to mend their broken hearts. We follow the so-called experts, yet our child is uniquely hurt.
We have to sew the pieces together or else no one will.
But, we forget the most important mindset.
Your RAD child is not yours, he or she is God’s child.
We take care of them to the best of our ability on earth, but their journey, like ours, will take them past beyond what we can comprehend. Their destiny is heaven.
Thus, the path they may lead now may be confusing, narrow, problematic and full of obstacles. But, it does not change their destiny.
We must not lose our focus. If the destiny is Heaven, then the priority is to make God known to your child.
Focus on seeking God for our RAD children.
The miracle that you need to happen, the first actually already happened.
You are the miracle in this child’s life. God plucked you among many women, to nurture these children.
Do not make the mistake on what they did to Susan Boyle – just by how she looked, they criticized her, they put her down, they raise their eyebrows. Ugly.
Yet, when she sang “I Dream a Dream”, she captured the audience. THis is what God can do for our RAD child. God can set aside the ugliness in our child and let the beauty come out through the gifts He gave them. We must just give them the chance.
