Do you experience your blood pressure rising when dealing with your RAD child every now and then?
One morning you wake up and without even any interaction with your RAD child, you feel blood rushing from your shoulders to your neck to the back of your neck. The RAD child can give you a negative vibration such as this.
You rationalize these physical symptoms because you want to . give your RAD child a fair chance. You restrain yourself from reacting negatively or unfairly. In reality, your RAD child is beginning to show some annoying behaviors. However, you resolved to be patient. You remind yourself that you must keep your promise not to be irritated at your RAD child over this trivial matter.
However, your RAD child can wear you out towards the middle of the day. You find yourself correcting the situation you are in with him or her. You either reprimand or you let your RAD child get the flack of his misbehavior.
What bothers me with RAD is when our child becomes ”fish-brained”. They forget the issue like they have Alzheimer’s. But, it was just a few weeks ago when you explained the issue to them. All of a sudden, because the day is different, a little different time of the day, what you told him or her about a certain issue does not hold true anymore.
For example, an elderly lady in our parish told me that my 10 year old RAD boy keeps running along the hallway, uses items in the Church kitchen, and gets some snacks without permission. Well, of course, my husband and I talked to our boy and made sure he understood that the Church property must be respected.
Did my RAD son get that?
It may seem so because he will be avoiding his past behavior when you are looking but will continue what he wants to do when you are not within sight. This is a typical behavior of a RAD child – no integrity, no conscience.
This elderly woman goes back to me the next few weeks with a similar complaint. My husband and I addressed the situation and reiterated the rules to our RAD boy. A few logical consequences were also implemented. After 2-4 weeks of good behavior, you discover again one day that he disobeyed.
Not only does it drive you crazy, it does make your high blood pressure go up. You raise your hands in surrender.
Though it all sounds exasperating, my spiritual director gave me a very good insight on how to continue loving this child. He asked me to meditate on the Sacred Heart of Jesus and let Jesus teach me to love this child. And, if I can’t at the moment love this child, to ask Jesus, to love this child for me.
The best way to meditate on the Sacred Heart of Jesus, after you get a visual representation of Him, is to recite the Litany of the Sacred Heart. Each line of this prayer gives you a clue of the mystery of the Divine Love that Jesus has in his heart.
| In 1899 Pope Leo XIII approved this Litany of the Sacred Heart of Jesus for public use. This litany is actually a synthesis of several other litanies dating back to the 17th century. Father Croiset composed a litany in 1691 from which 17 invocations were used by Venerable Anne Madeleine Remuzat when she composed her litany in 1718 at Marseille. She joined an additional 10 invocations to those of Father Croiset, for a total of 27 invocations. Six more invocations written by Sister Madeleine Joly of Dijon in 1686 were added by the Sacred Congregation for Rites when it was approved for public use in 1899. This makes a total of 33 invocations, one for each year of life of our Lord Jesus Christ. A partial indulgence is attached to this litany. | |
| Lord, have mercy Christ, have mercy Lord, have mercyChrist, hear us Christ, graciously hear us.God the Father of Heaven, God the Son, Redeemer of the world, God, the Holy Spirit, Holy Trinity, One God, Heart of Jesus, Son of the Eternal Father, Heart of Jesus, formed by the Holy Spirit in the womb of the Virgin Mother, Heart of Jesus, substantially united to the Word of God, Heart of Jesus, of Infinite Majesty, Heart of Jesus, Sacred Temple of God, Heart of Jesus, Tabernacle of the Most High, Heart of Jesus, House of God and Gate of Heaven, Heart of Jesus, burning furnace of charity, Heart of Jesus, abode of justice and love, Heart of Jesus, full of goodness and love, Heart of Jesus, abyss of all virtues, Heart of Jesus, most worthy of all praise, Heart of Jesus, king and center of all hearts, Heart of Jesus, in whom are all treasures of wisdom and knowledge, Heart of Jesus, in whom dwells the fullness of divinity, Heart of Jesus, in whom the Father was well pleased, Heart of Jesus, of whose fullness we have all received, Heart of Jesus, desire of the everlasting hills, Heart of Jesus, patient and most merciful, Heart of Jesus, enriching all who invoke Thee, Heart of Jesus, fountain of life and holiness, Heart of Jesus, propitiation for our sins, Heart of Jesus, loaded down with opprobrium, Heart of Jesus, bruised for our offenses, Heart of Jesus, obedient to death, Heart of Jesus, pierced with a lance, Heart of Jesus, source of all consolation, Heart of Jesus, our life and resurrection, Heart of Jesus, our peace and our reconciliation, Heart of Jesus, victim for our sins Heart of Jesus, salvation of those who trust in Thee, Heart of Jesus, hope of those who die in Thee, Heart of Jesus, delight of all the Saints,Lamb of God, who taketh away the sins of the world, Lamb of God, who taketh away the sins of the world, Lamb of God, who taketh away the sins of the world,V. Jesus, meek and humble of heart. |
Lord, have mercy. Christ, have mercy. Lord, have mercy.Christ, hear us. Christ, graciously hear us.have mercy on us. have mercy on us. have mercy on us. have mercy on us. have mercy on us.have mercy on us.have mercy on us. have mercy on us. have mercy on us. have mercy on us.have mercy on us. have mercy on us. have mercy on us. have mercy on us. have mercy on us. have mercy on us. have mercy on us.have mercy on us. have mercy on us. have mercy on us. have mercy on us. spare us, O Lord. graciously hear us, O Lord. have mercy on us, O Lord. R. Make our hearts like to Thine. |
| Let us pray;Almighty and eternal God, look upon the Heart of Thy most beloved Son and upon the praises and satisfaction which He offers Thee in the name of sinners; and to those who implore Thy mercy, in Thy great goodness, grant forgiveness in the name of the same Jesus Christ, Thy Son, who livest and reignest with Thee forever and ever. Amen. |
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Wow – I just found your blog and am in the process of discerning whether or not to homeschool our RAD daughter. We, too, are a practicing Catholic family and my biggest hesitation is do I rely on God enough?? I can see I will have days where I’m so exhausted from just the daily banter with her. How long have you homeschooled your children? And — our son would be homeschooled also and ends up on the receiving end of her meannness often; despite all the time I spend intervening/policing. They are 9 and adopted. Thanks!