AR, 19 years old, biological son (Sometimes acts RADish, but latest Book I am reading by Mr. Hughes tells me that if a child has a break in bonding and then resumes bonding with the mother, the child learns to adapt and won’t be RADish at all). When he was a few days old, he had to stay in the nursery for a week or two because I had a severe skin reaction to AMPCILLIN. The pedia did not want to take any chances. I got him only after I proved that it was allergy and not viral. He was a difficult child. Too hyper. Always asking “why”. He was very spoiled brat because he was the first child in the clan. He got whatever he wanted “toywise”. He got addicted to computer games and Xbox until early teens. He got into wrestling and made a name for himself and made it to STATE finals. Now, he is in college and taking Welbutrin for his depression. He is obsessed with high tech gears and comfort.
Jaycee, 16 years old, step son. Very brilliant kid with such admirable critical thinking skills. He wants to be a lawyer-priest. His RADishness is manifested by fearing me. He trembles when he holds my hands. He seems to be have a reserved personality at home and a bubbly disposition outside home. He used to steal food but now that he is wrestling and dieting, he just steals the milk of our toddler. He bullies his younger siblings and actually hurt them. He manipulates the younger kids to obey him or they hurt them. He had some incident of “peeping” from the bathroom closet when his pre-teen and teen sisters were taking a bath. Jaycee is very close to his Dad even though Jaycee talks back and disrespects him. His Dad always had an obvious soft spot for Jaycee. Jaycee takes advantage of it by sucking him in arguments. He seems to be a normal kid. But, really, right from the start, I have felt there was something not right with him.
Jayjay, 15 year old, biological son. He is currently with his biological father in California. He never gave me any problems when he was growing up. He was very asthmatic and sickly until 6 years old. I left him at 4 months old and came back when he was 10 months old. His father and I had to go to another country to look for work and establish the family. I left him with my sister who loved him and took care of him. He never accepted his stepfather as his Dad but was pretty respectful and close to him. He was seduced by my 15 year old RADish daughter at 11 years old. Since then, they had an intimate relationship that we were unaware of until we discovered them together one night. That was our summer crisis.
Fay, 15 year old, stepdaughter. I homeschool her. Ever since I married her Dad, she was our problem child. She sucks time with her never ending problems and drama. No matter how much time we spend on her,she will just do what she wants to do. She is very manipulative that sometimes I think of her as a little child with “borderline personality disorder”. She is also guilty of triangulating me with his father and my in-laws. She is good at tattle taling. She makes boyfriend left and right. Until last summer, we discovered her relationship with Jayjay, my bio son. And, it was further worsened when we discovered that she also had a sexual relationship with my oldest son, AR which got AR almost in jail. If it was not for my prayers, fasting, talking to holy men… that crisis almost ended my marriage to her father.
Rosa, 13 year old, stepdaughter. She has won many art award and loved writing stories. She was the least abused child by her birth mother. In fact, her BPD mother painted her as her princess. She always get the nice stuff and treated well. But she witnessed the abused of her mother to her siblings. I thought she had a very sensitive heart until I slowly witnessed the RADish traits in her. She lies. She hoards food. She steals food. She hold some entitlement that she is someone famous. She feels everyone in her school is jealous of her and that is the reason she is not making friends. She is filthy in her room and no organization skills. She suffered speech articulation problems for many years. She is very self-conscious even if she is a very pretty girl. She lacks confidence. She imagines a “mom-daughter time” which I tried to do with her many times. It went bad each time. She would criticize the places I take her to that it smells bad (Big Lots). She wants to communicate with me and tell me her dreams. But, I read her like a book. It hurts me because she cannot bond with me and does not know how.
Marcel, 11 year old, stepson. He is a brilliant kid. An avid reader. We always had problems with him. He was the first one to be diagnosed in the family as having ADHD. He is accident prone. He cannot make friends. He steals and it is in another level now. He skips classes once. He is bullied often. He goes to the wrong crowd in school. He steals food in people’s room. He likes going to other people’s room secretly and get their stuff. He has no conscience. He is cruel to pets. He does not do well with chores. He tends to destroy his personal stuff and other people’s stuff. He lies. He hurts his younger brothers. He has recently choked Cris.
Cris, 1o year old, stepson. He loves Legos and could do wonders with it. He is in Resource in school for learning disability and speech. It is very hard to understand him talk. He eats his words. He is a very picky eater. He is always the forgotten one because he immerses himself with his Lego when we have a crisis. His grades could be better. He underachieves. He does not like to do homework. He does not like to do his chores. He has an emotional age of 3 years old. He is tiny for his age. He is mean to LB. He gets along with our toddler.
LB, 8 years old, stepson. I took care of him just when he turned 4 years old. He could not speak and had terrible temper tantrums. I was patient with him and brought him to speech therapy and was his advocate. I taught him phonics before he even went to Kindergarten. But I noticed that he was ADHD too. He had some sexual acting out in preschool. He pulled his pants down. It created an uproar in school that he may be “gay”. He does not get along with my toddler and unkind to him. He steals food. He steals treats. He cries easily. He cannot make friends. He annoys my in-laws.
Ben, 2 years old biological son of my husband and me. I nurtured him like nobody. I am afraid he will turn out like his siblings. He is showing some signs of ADHD but it is too early to tell. He was a colic baby and still sleeps in bed with me and my husband. Based on his daily reactions, I know which kid interacted with him. I know if they fed him or not. I am glad he is learning to talk. He could tell me so many stuff going in the house.
